As families prepare for Christmas gatherings and summer programs across Australia, children face one of the most dangerous times of the year.
Yet many parents continue to miss the obvious signs: sexual predators are not always hidden in the shadows; they are often the “friendly uncle,” the smiling teacher, the “kind” family friend. Sadly, many adults see this as kindness.
Louise Edmonds, a survivor of abuse and founder of the Grooming Recognition Training program, emphasizes that parents often miss early red flags. Predators target vulnerability: children who are quiet, compliant, isolated, or eager to please. They then position themselves as the indispensable adult—the mentor, the funny relative, the understanding coach—while family members smile and trust them. At first, the abuse looks like care. This is precisely where the danger lies: harm hides behind warmth and interest, and society fails to notice.
Mel Jane, former prison officer and survivor advocate, reminds us that grooming often begins long before any physical contact. Predators manipulate parents just as much as children, gaining trust and exclusivity. Any parent ignoring overly attentive or secretive adults around their child is placing their child’s safety at immediate risk. Behavioral changes in a child—withdrawal or strong attachment to a particular adult—are clear red flags that cannot be ignored.
In schools and childcare settings, early childhood educator Sinead Stouch warns that initial grooming signs are often dismissed as “kindness.” Excessive attention, hugs, or inappropriate physical contact are all warning signs. Safe adults welcome questions and accountability. Sexual predators rely on secrecy, exclusivity, and blurred boundaries.
Awareness is the first line of defense. The Grooming Recognition Training, free until January 1 at www.groomingrecognition.com, equips parents and educators with the tools to identify early warning signs and protect children before manipulation escalates into abuse.
We must stop turning a blind eye. The holidays are no excuse for inaction. Protecting our children requires vigilance, knowledge, and action. Sexual predators do not ask for permission—they exploit negligence. If we do not protect our children now, we will have no excuse later.
